Quarrel and argument with the pair would often occur. Many studies have proven that argument, in general, better than you are bottling up his anger.
Of course, not all the fights to bring positive effects. It really depends on how you and your partner to keep fighting to stay healthy. By not letting the anger exploding without a clear meaning and direction.
In order to fight a positive effect, making the relationship more qualified, there are five rules of the game, from the pages of The Stir.
1. Turn
There are times when you and your partner should speak your mind without hindrance or interruption. Arguments like "last turn, my turn now". Allow your partner to finish speaking, do not stop with a rebuttal. After he finished speaking, you just do the talking. This provides the same opportunity to you and your partner to express feelings or point of view about something.
2. Describing feelings
When arguing focus on what you feel. For instance, "I feel very sad when you ...". If you guessed her feelings then cornered, it fights to get worse. Do not tell me, how someone makes you feel guilty or what they did wrong. Should focus on describing your feelings on her attitude. That way your partner knows how sad for his.
3. Focus
When the fight because of late, focus on discussing the causes and solutions. Do not creep bring up other issues, such as mother-in-law or her attitude that often hang out with her friends. Solve problems one by one, bring up old problems will only make the fight more intense and the issue is not resolved.
4. Stay express affection
When angry with your partner, do not let him feel you are no longer loved her. Just say "I love you, so can not you love that home terlmabat news, because I panicked." You can get a little shouting or swearing but perhaps not to get out the words "I hate you", let alone "seems to be better separated."
5. Rest
If you're tired to fight, ask him to calm down for a moment. After one hour, talk to him again. This method is usually little to defuse emotion.
Sources: http://lovelizzers.blogspot.com/2011/06/aturan- rule-if-fight-dengan.html
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